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What happens during a collaborative divorce?

Divorce is a difficult process in which two parties must disentangle their finances, parenting responsibilities and other aspects of their lives. It's an emotional, complicated thing to walk through, and many couples may be looking for a way to minimize complications and stress. One way to do this is by choosing a collaborative divorce. 

There are many benefits to collaborating on a divorce. It can reduce stress and allow the couple to move through the entire process faster. While these may seem like positive things, you probably understand that this process simply doesn't work in every situation. Before you make any important decisions that will impact the course and direction of your life, you will find it beneficial to seek an assessment of the specific legal options available to you.

You don't have to be friendly with your ex to be a parent

Now that you are in the midst of a divorce, you may feel as though your children were the best thing to come out of your marriage. Perhaps you wouldn't have a problem never speaking to your future former spouse again, but you know that you will have to communicate somehow since you still have children to raise.

You may not have a high opinion of your soon-to-be ex, but you can't deny that he or she loves your children and wants to remain in their lives as much as possible after the divorce. You know that your children need both of you in their lives in order to thrive and get through this transition, but you have no illusions that co-parenting is out of the question, at least for the foreseeable future.

Does your high asset divorce have you feeling alone?

Because you have a considerable amount of wealth, you may have felt judged by other people who immediately thought you must have all the happiness you could want due to your financial fortune. Of course, you know differently, especially after enduring what became an unhappy marriage and a now pending divorce.

You, like many other Arizona residents going through this legal process, may feel a myriad of emotions. If you decided to end the relationship, you may feel relieved but possibly also guilty. If you did not make the decision, you may feel hurt, angry and uncertain about the future. Because others may see you as someone who "has it all," you may even feel like you have no one to turn to for emotional support.

Filing for divorce doesn't mean your parental rights are negated

It's no secret that divorce disrupts children's lives and often causes emotional challenges for them. However, deciding to sever your marital ties doesn't mean you disregard your children's best interests. In fact, like most good parents in Arizona, that is likely one of your highest priorities as you make plans to move on in life.

When there's a bit of bad blood between spouses as they part ways, things can get quite messy in court or even in the weeks and months that follow settlement. You might have to deal with some problematic issues with your ex from time to time. At no point, however, do you have to let him or her undermine your parental rights. If you suspect that he or she is trying to turn your kids against you, it's critical that you know how to protect your rights.

Did your finances suffer after your divorce?

It probably wouldn't be difficult for you to find other Tucson residents whose finances weren't exactly stellar after a divorce. Nearly every person who gets a divorce suffers some form of financial issues after the end of a marriage.

Anytime the same financial resources go from supporting one household to supporting two, there will be some adjustments needed. During the divorce process, most people focus on dividing assets, creating parenting plans and the like. What they tend to ignore is how the divorce will impact their credit and finances over the long haul.

Don't skip a crucial step in any military divorce with children

Making the decision to serve in the United States Armed Forces is an admirable one. The life comes with numerous challenges, including balancing work with family life. The stresses put on military families can sometimes result in a breakdown of the marriage and lead to divorce.

When this happens and children are involved, resolving custody issues often requires numerous considerations with which civilian couples don't have to contend. One of them involves arranging for those times when a deployment occurs. The possibility that the service member will receive orders only hours prior to departure exists. If you serve in the Armed Forces and are in the midst of a divorce with children, you must include a family care plan to deal with this issue.

Child support modifications restore financial balance

You may feel as though you got the short end of the divorce if you pay child support, but only have a limited time to spend with the kids each week. Of course, you understand your obligation to support your children, but there is no question that the payments take a bite out of your budget. When unexpected expenses come up, you often sacrifice your own needs to ensure you can pay the full amount of your court order.

Despite your disappointment in the situation, you may accept your obligation. However, if a financial setback or other circumstances find you falling farther and farther behind on your debts and maybe still unable to make your child support payments, you may have cause to seek a modification of your support amount.

Reviewing your parenting plan for the summer months

If your child recently handed you a field trip permission slip, you may have experienced a reality check. The Arizona school year is almost over, and the kids will be starting their summer vacation in a matter of weeks. In the past, this may have been no big deal. However, now that you are divorced, you have a parenting time schedule to consider.

You certainly have ideas for what to do with your kids this summer. Maybe you have already put in for vacation time at work so you can take the children to the beach or a favorite camping site. Have you checked with your ex about these plans? It is possible he or she has similar arrangements, and for the sake of the children and the peaceful summer you imagine, it is critical that you and your ex get together and work out your plans for the summer.

When should you fight for sole custody?

There is no disputing the positive effect co-parenting can have on children of divorce. After the turmoil of the breakup, arranging parenting schedules so that both parents can spend as much time as possible with the kids can certainly diminish the potential for long-term negative impacts on the children.

All things being equal, you may agree that shared parenting is a good idea. However, maybe you have reasons for not wanting to co-parent with your ex. If you have decided to fight for sole custody of your children, you may wonder if your reasons are valid and how you can make your case in court.

Avoid making mistakes during property division

Divorce has enough stress and anxiety without adding to it your worries that you will struggle financially after you split with your spouse. While it is true that many divorced individuals in Arizona and across the country spend months or years trying to get back on their feet after a divorce, it does not always have to be that way.

Even if you have been married longer than 10 years and are closing in on your retirement, you can still take steps to protect yourself from a financial crisis. As emotional as a divorce may be, it is imperative that you remain focused on obtaining a fair division of property, and this does not always mean a 50-50 split.

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