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Balancing cooperation and confrontation during divorce

On Behalf of | Jul 15, 2016 | Uncategorized

Collaboration is a recent trend among divorcing couples, and there are many celebrity examples that make the process of working together to end a marriage seem like a simple and easy process. Desiring a less contentious and more “friendly” divorce is understandable, but Arizona spouses must keep in mind the positions that divorce creates. Both sides will have distinct goals when it comes to matters of child custody, property division and so on. Those goals are unlikely to be identical, which means that there is a risk that the settlement will be unbalanced.

Collaboration is a grand idea, and there are certainly couples who are able to work together to iron out the details of their divorces. However, there are plenty of cases in which one spouse wants to have a softer, gentler divorce, while the other simply wants to gain the best possible settlement terms. In such cases, the less dominant spouse should take steps to protect his or her interests.

Usually, the best way to reach that goal is to hire a divorce attorney and let him or her do the job for which he or she has been hired. Spouses should share the goal of wanting to have a low-conflict divorce, but they should also share the goals and needs that are associated with the end of their marriage. That approach will empower the attorney to work toward a fair settlement, while also trying to keep tensions from escalating.

Divorce is a process that creates sides by its very nature. However, making the decision to divorce does not mean that Arizona spouses cannot be fair, kind and compassionate to their soon-to-be ex-spouses during the course of the process. It just means that both spouses should look after their own interests, while also working toward a settlement that is fair and balanced.

Source:, “7 Things I Learned the Hard Way About Post-Divorce Etiquette“, Stacey Freeman, July 8, 2016