From the get go, your children’s best interests were the highest priority for you when you began discussing divorce. You knew there would be challenges, and you wanted to make certain that everyone involved would be willing to cooperate and compromise so your kids would have the least amount of stress possible, given the situation. You thought everything was going fine, that is, until your children began lamenting that they did not want to have to move to a different house.
This got you thinking whether there might be options available so they wouldn’t have to do so. One night, while you were out with some friends at your favorite Arizona restaurant, you shared your concerns and one of them gave you an idea that worked in a similar situation: Bird nesting in divorce. You had never heard of this type of parenting plan but went home wanting to learn more.
How bird nesting might help your kids
More and more parents in Arizona and throughout the nation are giving bird nesting in divorce a try. The following list includes information that may help you determine whether it might be a viable option in your own life:
- Basically, the bird nesting process in divorce works by allowing children to continue living in the house they shared with their parents when their parents were still married.
- If you were to implement this type of arrangement, you and your former spouse would take turns living with your children.
- You would have to decide whether both parents would share in the maintenance and upkeep of the home, whether each would sleep in the same room during his or her turn or whether separate rooms would be maintained, etc.
- During the times when it would not be your turn to stay with your kids, you would obviously have to have someplace else to live. You might stay at a hotel, get an apartment or rent a room in a friend’s house.
- The main benefit of bird nesting process following divorce is that children are much more able to maintain a routine in their environments, especially since they don’t have shuttle back and forth between their parents’ houses.
- The added expense of additional living quarters may be a deterrent for some people; however, others like the idea of not having to go through the bother of selling the house they shared in marriage.
A bird nesting arrangement would likely work best if you and your former spouse are on good terms and able to work together to resolve any differences that might arise. Some problems are more difficult to solve than others; for instance, if your spouse says or does something that directly violates an existing court order, extra support might be needed to rectify the situation.
Bird nesting in divorce is not for every Arizona parent. You know what is best for your family and can always change your mind later if you try it and it doesn’t work out. If a legal problem arises (whether related to bird nesting or some other divorce issue) you can seek guidance from a family law attorney before things get out of hand.