Having children is often the highlight of many Arizona residents’ lives. Though you and most other parents would avoid having anything hurt your child in any way, you know that some upsets are unavoidable. For instance, you and the other parent have decided to end your marriage, and you know that your children may feel distraught over this turn of events.
Of course, you and the other parent can do your best to help your children through the process from the beginning. You may want to start by finding the best way to tell your kids that a divorce is going to happen.
Fortunately, a number of ways exist for telling your kids the news. You know your children best, and as a result, you likely know how they react in certain situations. If you need help determining the best way to tell your children, you may want to consider the following tips:
- Work as a team: Though you and the other parent may be getting divorced because you no longer get along, the children may take the news better if you both are present for the conversation and can answer questions together.
- Decide on details: Before you bring up the topic of divorce with the kids, make sure you can answer those likely questions. By having some details nailed down first, you can confidently tell your children where they will live, where each parent will live and other similar information.
- Give them time: It is unrealistic to tell your kids about the divorce and have them accept the news immediately. They may not ask the questions you anticipated or talk much at all, but after processing the news, they may want to discuss it further.
- Do not give too much information: Though your children may want to know why the divorce is happening, it is best to refrain from giving too many details, especially if the marriage is ending on bad terms. You do not want to point fingers or bad-mouth your soon-to-be ex in front of the kids.
Your kids are undoubtedly the most important people in your life, and you want to do what is best for them. In addition to finding the best way to tell them about the divorce, you will certainly want to come to custody terms that will be in their best interests. If you have concerns or questions about your custody options, you may want to speak with an attorney.