In an ideal situation, co-parenting allows you and your former spouse in Arizona to maintain a healthy relationship with your child. Unfortunately, some spouses aren’t willing to cooperate. While parenting guides might urge you to compromise with your former spouse or be more respectful of their feelings, there are times when it’s best to let go and accept that you’re not going to get through to them.
Common co-parenting misconceptions
If your current co-parenting plan isn’t working, some people might tell you that you need to negotiate with your former spouse. You might be able to discuss the issue with your former spouse if you’re on good terms. But if your former spouse was toxic or abusive, no amount of compromise and negotiations will make them satisfied. In the end, you might have to settle for an arrangement that minimizes your contact with them.
Others might tell you that you should stand your ground with your former spouse. However, arguing with a toxic co-parent isn’t going to accomplish anything. Instead, try stepping back and setting boundaries in accordance with family law. You can’t change your former spouse’s mind about anything or force them to see reason, but you can set boundaries for yourself and your child.
Additionally, it’s important to consider the source of your information. Well-meaning but misguided people could give you information that might actually harm your case. If you’re having issues with your divorce case, speak with your attorney or talk to a therapist. These people may give you professional, objective advice that makes your life easier instead of adding more stress and frustration.
How an attorney may help you with a parenting plan
The negotiations don’t end after one parent receives custody. Whether you’re the custodial parent or not, you’ll have to negotiate with your former spouse to figure out a parenting plan that allows both parties to spend time with their child. This can be challenging if you’re dealing with a toxic or difficult spouse. An attorney may help you figure out a plan that works for everyone.