Working in law enforcement takes a certain type of personality. You need to be authoritative, confident and professional. At the same time, you work under the constant stress of often seeing people at the worst moments of their lives while making sure that you make it home safely after the end of each shift.
Now that you are in the midst of a divorce, you may feel as though your children were the best thing to come out of your marriage. Perhaps you wouldn't have a problem never speaking to your future former spouse again, but you know that you will have to communicate somehow since you still have children to raise.
If your child recently handed you a field trip permission slip, you may have experienced a reality check. The Arizona school year is almost over, and the kids will be starting their summer vacation in a matter of weeks. In the past, this may have been no big deal. However, now that you are divorced, you have a parenting time schedule to consider.
Even if you know your divorce is the right decision for your personal wellbeing, you may have some regrets. Probably the biggest regret is that your divorce will divide the time you will spend with your children. You may expect to obtain a fair enough custody ruling in Arizona family court, or perhaps you and your spouse will work together to come up with as equal parenting time as possible.
In most joint custody arrangements, the court will consider one parent the non-custodial parent. This is often because the children will primarily live with one parent in order to maintain continuity of their lives. For example, if you and the other parent do not live in the same school district, the children would spend the majority of their time with the parent in that school district.
You may remember those early holidays with the kids. With a schedule in mind, your family attended church services together, arrived at Grandma's for an afternoon feast, and perhaps darted to other holiday gatherings throughout the week. While those may have been hectic days, you may give anything to have them back.
You and your future ex-spouse may not agree on much in the beginning of your divorce proceedings, but you may agree that, when it comes to your children, you need to figure out a way to work together. That may seem like an insurmountable task at this point, but both of you are steadfast in making it happen.
Now that your divorce is final, you likely feel ready to move on in life, get a fresh start and begin building new, happy memories with your kids. You've talked with them about how life changes, but that doesn't necessarily mean change always makes things worse. Each of your kids may have reacted to your divorce differently. You understand there may be challenges along the way, but you're determined to have a good summer and future together.
It may seem like a pipe dream to consider having a healthy relationship with your ex. After all, if you got along, you wouldn't be getting divorced, right?
Arizona law allows divorcing parents to decide among themselves how parenting time will be divided. Indeed, the courts prefer that parents work together to develop parenting plans because those who have reached an agreement are more likely to cooperate with one another as their children age. The primary purposes of parenting plans are to allow consistency and predictability in future interactions and minimize future conflict. The plan should set forth the parents' understanding regarding legal custody, the parenting time schedule and the ways in which rights and privileges will be shared. The plan must contain a statement about custody, setting forth whether sole legal custody is given to one parent or the parents will have joint legal custody.